When you look at your partner of many years it is possible that you do not get that heart tugging wave of love that you did when you were first together.
That does not mean that you have lost the love that you had, it just means that the love you have has changed and developed. Like your relationship has changed and matured, so has your love for one another.
It’s a bit like a runner on a sprint – that involves a short burst of speed. Your relationship is like a marathon – there is a short burst of speed at the start that gets it going and from then on it’s a steady pace.
If you think about it, it is not physiologically beneficial to have that pulse racing love from the beginning continuing all through the relationship. Because it is like an adrenaline rush, designed for the flight or fight mechanism in humans. It is not good for people to have that every day of their lives.
No, love changes. Love deepens, often after it has been tested. For instance, if you and your partner overcome some problem; maybe the death of a beloved pet, maybe one of you being made redundant, this can have the affect of deepening your love and appreciation for each other. All of life’s trials can deepen your love for one another if you pull together and work as a team, supporting one another through the problem.
What though, if you really feel your love for your partner has died? You need to spend some time dwelling on the reasons you were attracted to them in the first place. Ok they doesn’t look like that young cutie you first dated, but then, can you honestly say you look as good as you did then? That isn’t the important thing though.
Get a pen and paper and write down all the things that, over the years, your partner has done for you. Think about these, dwell on them. Think about the things they do now. Try and scrape together every positive thing you can about your partner. Why not invite them to do the same about you? You might be surprised at what you find! You can also do lists of all the fun things you have done together- even the things that you did years ago. Think about them, spend some time remembering them, the sounds and the smells, and make them real in your mind again. You will find your appreciation of your partner increasing by the day, and that will help you get the love back.
Love doesn’t just die, it just lacks attention. If you pay attention and give your love for your partner a boost now and again, then it will bloom again.
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