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Emotional Infidelity Why Do Men Cheat Emotionally?

25 Oct 2010 at 10:56

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Emotional Infidelity – How Did It Happen?

So you think your husband is involved in emotional infidelity. Maybe he hasn’t admitted it, but you know the signs and they are all present. Perhaps you have checked his phone, seen the texts, you are convinced in yourself that there is definitely something going on. It is hard when you think your partner is having a marital affair.

Emotional Infidelity – What Future?

You might be worried sick about the future…….you never wanted to be a single mom. You thought your marriage would last forever! You don’t know how you will cope with the bills and the children, perhaps you are worried that he will never pay maintenance for them…….and what about the house…..willyou ever find another guy…..???

The biggest question though, is why did it happen? To make any sense of what is going on, you need to know why married people get involved in emotional affairs. This will help you discover how to repair your relationship. Yes, surviving infidelity is possible. You may think that you will never be able to do that but, with some help, you can get your relationship back even better than before.

Emotional Infidelity – Why?

The basic fact of the matter is your husband was, either consciously or sub-consciously not getting what he needed from your relationship. Now I am not blaming it all on you; it was him that got involved in the emotional affair in the first place. You need to know though that getting over an affair is possible.

But it is easy for him to fall for another woman’s charms when they start. Who hasn’t succumbed to a bit of flattery? Women do know how to stroke a mans ego. This is where emotional infidelity starts. While they know they should show emotional unavailability, cheating is imminent.

Many men like to feel like a rescuer, so if a pretty woman has a problem he can solve, and then they show him that they appreciate his efforts, he will enjoy that. This is an emotional affair alert! You can see how before long she goes to him with all her little troubles. And knowing that he is going to get flattered and appreciated – without the responsibilities of children and home – then it is easy to see how men can fall into the trap. Emotional infidelity ensues.

What can you do?

If you want to protect your marriage against emotional infidelity, then you need to show that you appreciate the little things your husband does do around the home. You must recognise his efforts.

Now I know you might be thinking he doesn’t do anything. But you have to get into the mentality of little children – remember how even if your children tried to help (but made more of a mess) you still praised them for trying? Yep, that is the approach you need to take for your men. Even if they just try to help, don’t criticise. Thank them. Relationships are built up this way, and it is a great way to combat emotional infidelity.

Don’t try and cope with everything. If there is a little thing you can trust them with, make sure you do. Jam jars are good – let them be the strong man and open it for you. It really boosts their ego when they can be the one that rescues you. Interpersonal relationships are improved by this sort of behaviour. Such a tiny thing will help prevent emotional affairs.

If you think back to a time when you and your husband were happy together, when you talked about everything, and you felt that you would be together forever………..well if you put the plan into action, you can get back to that time. Yes emotional infidelity can be overcome.

Obviously I can’t give you all the information you need right here in this article, it would be far too long.

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How to Save a Marriage – Should a Couple Separate to Save Marriage?

By Steve Gee

Staying together didn’t help me save my marriage

Staying together with your spouse for the sake of the children or just in the hope that your relationship gets better, rarely works if you’re trying to save your marriage and avoid divorce. Sooner or later you will most likely end up splitting up so is there another way that might be more effective?

Everyone tells you that you should talk to your partner, listen to what they are telling you then change your behaviour to put right all of your faults. If both of you really work at doing this then your marriage will be solved right? Well probably not.

What if your spouse doesn’t want to save your marriage?

Conventional advice is only likely to work if both you and your partner really want to avoid divorce. Unfortunately this isn’t often the case. More often than not one of you wants to save the relationship but the other one just wants to get out as soon as they can. You can’t hope to work together towards a reconciliation under these circumstances because it simply won’t work.

Pleading and promising to change isn’t going to work either because this just makes you look weak and needy and quite frankly, pathetic. All you will succeed in doing is pushing your partner away quicker than if you did nothing.

How to save your marriage by having a good time

Instead of trying to push yourself onto your partner and killing your relationship by smothering it you could try separation instead. At first sight this sounds like an odd thing to do. How do you end up staying together by separating? Well believe it or not it can work and it might save your marriage even if your spouse doesn’t want it to.

Separating does two things. Straight away your partner will start to realize exactly what she or he will be missing if your relationship ends. If you’ve always been a loving partner and good provider then these qualities in you will be missed immediately. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side is it?

When your spouse sees you having a good time without her she may start to remember why you got together in the first place. This is where you have to concentrate on saving your marriage by just being yourself away from you spouse and make sure that she knows what you’re doing. The more she sees you enjoying yourself and not needing her the more attractive you will become to her. You might even find that your spouse starts trying to save your marriage all by herself, even if she didn’t want to in the first place.

You don’t have to move out

You don’t actually need to be apart physically to have a separation. In fact it helps if you don’t because it will be easier for your spouse to see you being yourself. Tell your partner that you know that she wants a divorce and that you are going to start living your life the way you want to. Let her see you coming home late from the office and starting to date new people. You can even discuss your dates with her and ask her advice on how you can make a good impression. This is sure to get her thinking.

The results from this strategy might surprise you. Lets face it, your marriage was going to end in divorce anyway right, so what have you got to lose? By showing your partner that you don’t need them you will be making yourself more attractive to them and maybe they will start to reconsider what it is that they really want.

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Save Marriage – 8 Tips You Can Start Using Today to Save Marriage!

By Mak Stella

If you are looking for suggestions to help you save marriage, you have come to the right place! In this article, you will learn 8 tips which you can start using right from today to save your relationship. If you still love your spouse, you have to take action immediately! It does not matter even if you are trying to save marriage alone because as long as you do not give up, you will see results one day.

Here are the 8 tips to help you …

1. Communication

This may seem to be a very obvious step but there are a lot of couples who have forgotten to talk to each other. By talking, I am referring to spending time listening and telling each other of your needs, dreams and wants. Very often, we get so carried away by the mundane routines and busy schedule that we forget to show our care and concern for our loved ones.

The first thing you should do is to let your partner know of your feeling that something is not right with your marriage and find time to communicate with each other. If both of you do not have a habit of spending time alone together at the end of a long day, it is high time you fit this into your busy schedule. Remember to listen to what your partner has to say and don’t be on the defensive or you will not get anywhere with your talk.

2. Start Afresh

Remember the good old days when both of you were still in the dating stage? What attracted you to him and vice versa? Things seemed to be so sweet and loving but somehow along the way, the naggings started to enter the picture. You find that you are often getting into squabbles over trivial things. Should this have happened?

Once you notice that problems seem to have arisen in your relationship and you wish to save your marriage, it is time to make a commitment with each other to start life fresh. Focus on the sweet memories. You might even want to re-visit the places you had been to and to start doing things together. However, do not expect things to change overnight and do not expect your partner to reciprocate right away.

3. Short Getaway

I know this can be difficult for many couples, especially if they have very young children. However, think about how much time and intimacy you can have with each other without anybody else to disturb the two of you. Spending time together is important to rekindle the romance between you so find time to fit it into your busy schedule. Even if you are unable to get away for too many days, a weekend spent on a romantic trip will help greatly in improving the relationship. You can always arrange for a trusted babysitter for your children when necessary.

4. Say Sorry

Surprise with this tip? Well, very often, we tend to take things for granted; so much so that we forget to show our apology even when we realize that we had been in the wrong. When we fight with our loved ones, we might say something hurtful unintentionally. It is important to say ‘sorry’ and say it with sincerity. Do not leave quarrels unresolved as that would only cause more tension and deepen the drift between the two of you. In fact, you should never even go to bed feeling angry with each other; always kiss and make up before you turn in for the night. This is especially so if you already know that you are in the wrong, just pluck up your courage and apologize!

5. Say It With Words

When was the last time you said “I love you” to your spouse? Mushy words should not stop just because you are married with kids! If you say your love with words, how do you expect your spouse to know that you still love him? I can understand how tiring it is when you get home at the end of a long working day, so you might not have any energy left for some intimacy but saying “I love you” will not take you long.

For couples who might not spend a lot of time together, you can always show your love through love notes. Stick these little messages on places lest expected, such as on the mirror in the bathroom, on the CD in the car or briefcase or even send as text messages via hand phones. There are really so many fun things you can do to show your love for your spouse, just add some creativity.

6. The Power Of Touch

Research has shown that touch is a very powerful tool. A gentle, loving touch by a parent can bring the sickliest child out of danger because you are showing through your touch that you care. For someone trying to save marriage, the same can be done. Ask yourself when was the last time you took the first step to hold your spouse’s hand when you are out shopping or plant a kiss on your partner’s check to show your affection? The next time you walk past your spouse, just reach out to pull him towards you and place a kiss lovingly on his face. I am sure you will love the look of surprise on his face!

7. Allow Space In Your Lives

Yes, spending time with each other is vital to your relationship, but it is just as important to allow space in your lives. No matter how much you love each other, you must always give each other time to do the things they love. If your spouse loves to fish but you prefer to read books at home, do not force your partner to do what you want to do. Let him enjoy his hobby and you can always pick up a new interest if you do not any hobby that you already enjoy doing.

8. Make Your Spouse Feel Good

Who says flirting and giving gifts to each other can only take place when you are still dating? Do you still recall what you had done or what you have given that made your spouse very happy back in the days when you were still dating? It is never too late to start doing all that again!

Some recommendations for you include flirting with your spouse openly, showering him or her with compliments for their appearances or things they had done instead of naggings, buying little gifts and leaving them around in the house for them to find or letting your spouse know that he is your soul mate, etc. Even simple gestures like making him a cup of his favorite coffee when he is busy will make a great difference in your relationship.

The above 8 tips are just some recommendations for you if you want to save marriage. However, finding out about these tips and not taking any actions will lead you nowhere. Both of you have to make a commitment to make your relationship work if you still love each other. Finally, if all else fail as you seem to be trying to save marriage alone, you might want to consider seeking professional help.

By expert assistance, I am referring to marriage counseling. These counselors are trained to help couples find the problems in their relationships and to offer assistance to improving the marriages. If all else fail, you should not feel shy about turning to marriage counseling.

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How to Save a Marriage – The 10 Steps to Save Your Marriage After Infidelity

By Jennie J. Hernandez

One of the hardest things that can happen in marriage is infidelity. It is very hard to give your trust to a person. It will be harder to give it back once they have broken their promise to love no one else but you. There may be lots of tips that you can find about how to save a marriage. But the fact is that it will really be a hard quest when the issue is all about infidelity.

Think things through. After you have pondered about what led to the situation, you might be able to see light at the end of it all. When you have accepted such things, you may try these tips on how to save a marriage to help your relationship get back on track even after such big hurdle.

1. Listen. Talk to your partner and allow them to explain. What they did was wrong. But you have to find out why they resorted to such. Through this, you will understand the needs of your partner. You will also realize the mistakes that both of you have committed. Such talk can actually result to positive outcome when it comes to your relationship. Let this be a good start of a clean slate. Be open to each other to avoid the temptations that may always be lurking around, waiting for its prey.

2. Open up. You have to make your partner understand what you are going through. You have to make them feel the pain that was caused by such ugly incident. You have to let them know how you are hurting. And you must make them understand that it may not be easy, but you are willing to try to make things work out.

3. You have to exert effort in changing the ways that led to such unfaithfulness from your partner. Upon knowing both of your mistakes, you must do things in order to make things better for both of you and for your family.

4. Learn how to forgive. It is easy to say that you have forgiven your partner. But the words must come from your heart. If you will give this to them, you have to do it at the time when you are ready for such and you are willing to give the relationship another try.

5. Both of you must limit your expectations with one another. Do not try to stress yourselves out by expecting too much from your partner and from the relationship.

6. You have to show that you care. After a heated argument or series of fights regarding the issue that you were faced with, you have to reassure your partner that you love them. And the best thing that you can do is by showing them exactly how much through your actions.

7. If nothing positive is coming out from talking by yourselves, both of you must seek professional counseling. This is the best time to turn to a mediator who can help you both in seeing things from all angles.

8. Maintain the lines of communication between you and your partner open. No matter how bad the days seem to be, at the end of the argument, you must talk things out so that it won’t get out of hand.

9. Put more romance in the relationship.

10. Prove your love to one another.

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Save Your Marriage – the Absolute Best Way to Re-Build Your Relationship and Marriage

15 Jan 2012 at 06:43

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Save Your Marriage – the Absolute Best Way to Re-Build Your Relationship and Marriage

By Jennie J. Hernandez

In relationships, nothing is perfect. You have to face travails and succeed in dealing with them together with your partner. You both have to learn from your mistakes and try not to do things that hurt each other the most in the course of being together. You have to learn how to save your marriage before a tiny problem can lead to damaging effects that might cause for your foundation to be dissolved.

You must build a strong foundation from the start. Marriage is a learning process. Sometimes, you may not want what you have learned but this doesn’t mean that you must give up on everything. It only means that you are like others, your relationship is not perfect. So the best thing that you can do in order to save your marriage is learn to accept facts. You have to love your partner unconditionally. And you must be willing to bend according to changes and to accommodate everything that you might have found out in the process.

A good foundation will come in handy at times when your marriage becomes rocky. There will be lots of times wherein you have to start from scratch in order to save your marriage. But the good thing about this is that if you are very sure that it is all worth fighting for.

Building a strong foundation is one thing. If this foundation will be marred by intrigues, hatred and other problems, you have to keep trying and think about how strong that foundation was. This will give you better chances into holding on and keeping up with the fight.

Here are some recommendations as to what you can do when you have been faced with obstacles that almost dissolved such good foundation of your marriage.

1. Talk things out with your husband or wife. You have to let your partner know how you feel. You have to make them aware how much you are hurting. You must not process such feeling by yourself. There are maybe things that you don’t fully understand because you are being blinded by your jealousy or hatred. By saying how you feel and what your thoughts are about the issues regarding your marriage, there is no other else that you should be speaking with but your partner.

In this process, you must also learn how to listen. This means that you have to open your mind and heart to possibilities and other things that you may not believe at the start. You must let your partner speak their feelings and you should give them a chance to be heard and understood.

2. You may find it hard to forgive, but in a relationship, you must perfect such act. No matter what your partner had done, if your heart tells you that they have to be forgiven, listen to it. Sometimes, your mind gives you 101 reasons why you should not forgive. But when you listen closely to what is the one thing that your heart is saying, your problems will be resolved and you will be able to see things at a different perspective.

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How To Find A Good Marriage Counselor And Save Your Marriage…

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How To Find A Good Marriage Counselor And Save Your Marriage…

By Sarah Williams

Have you ever stayed awake all nightlong thinking about whether your marriage will last or not?

Troubled marriage represents different kind of emotions. Hurt feelings are the most common but it can lead to depression, panic, paranoia, and anger. These emotions can be distracting to your goal of creating romantic love and finally bringing it all in ruins. For this part, it can take you to painful experiences you can never accept at all.

This kind of situation can make your mind go nuts thinking how can you possibly save it in due time. Marriage in trouble is very depressing thinking what went wrong. It makes you realize what is happening, although you are expecting that all is well despite some differences.

Likewise, in marriage you just knew that it’s not going to be a perfect one. You just do what you think is right but still some are not quite enough. But then you think it’s not a problem at all, because you expect in marriage that it’s a process of accepting, learning and most of all loving despite of weaknesses.

FINDING A GOOD MARRIAGE COUNSELOR

In dealing troubled marriage, you can approach marriage counselors although you better find a good one. A good marriage counselor helps couple to guide through emotional distresses, motivating the feelings and discussing some sort of tips to excite the couple. Counselors guide couples in understanding the enormous stress in facing one of their greatest crises to date. For instance, when one or both spouses become emotionally upset, a counselor must have the skill in treating emotional reactions effectively.

A good counselor must know how to calm down the couple and assuring them that it’s not a sign of hopeless incompatibility. Counselors sometimes obtain special training for many common marital problems, such as sexual differences in which this is one of the reasons why couples disintegrate- like having an affair. Also, financial conflicts can be a deciding factor in which one of the couple is not financially stable.

By finding your preferred marriage counselor, there are many ways of discovering them. You can ask from your friends but its better if some of them have been seen a counselor that has successfully guided them. Also, you can find counselors in your phone directory or yellow pages where some of their offices and contact numbers are stated.

Regardless of your source of referral, you should be certain in choosing someone who can really help you. Always remember that a counselor is who can help your relationship for you and your partner. If possible, it’s much better if your partner is an active participant in treatment sessions.

By calling counselors at their offices, you can call one clinic at a time. Ask their respective assistants to speak to the counselor you are considering by phone. When you are about to speak some questions after your introductions and purpose, you can ask these following questions:

• How many years have you been a counselor?

• What are your credentials (e.g. academic and master’s degree)?

• Do you help clients in overcoming and avoiding emotional letdowns?

• Do you help in motivating the clients to finish the program successfully?

• Do you suggest different approach in dealing solutions in any kind of marital situations?

• How much does it cost for every session or for the whole duration of the program?

You can add other relevant questions as long as the marriage counselor knows what type of marital problem you have. Finally, for choosing your preferred marriage counselor you should let him/her know that you come for help in restoring and saving love to your marriage. Because in marriage, it’s the most beautiful thing ever to happen in your life.

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Marriage Trial Separations – 5 Tips For Saving Your Marriage

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Marriage Trial Separations – 5 Tips For Saving Your Marriage

By Jed Jones

When a marriage has reached its breaking point, sometimes a trial separation seems like the best option. The grief, the anger, the hurt: you may be asking yourself what relationship could possibly be worth this? However, if you both do still harbor love for one another in your hearts, it may be worth giving your love another chance.

Here are 5 tips for avoiding a trial separation or getting back together if you are in the midst of one now:

Tip #1: Feelings, not recriminations: When you are talking with your spouse, start every statement with, “When you do X, I feel Y. ” This immediately removes the element of blame from the situation and shifts it to what we humans are really about: our feelings and emotions.

Tip #2: Problems, not personalities: When you encounter with your spouse one of your hot button issues – those that make your tempers immediately go through the roof and your patience vanish – try to focus on the problems at hand rather than the specific shortcomings or flaws of the other person. By looking at a problem objectively as something to be examined and studied, you become able to separate how you feel about the other person from the things that are causing you both pain. Only then can you tackle your problem head-on.

Tip #3: Leave the kids out of it: If you have kids with your spouse, do everything in your power to keep them out of your problems with your spouse. Kids often become the victims when parents separate: an unfortunate casualty that can be avoided. Make sure that you explain to your kids that they are not the cause of your separation. And, never, ever give your kids messages to relay to your spouse if you are already separated: your communication with your spouse needs to happen directly between the two of you.

Tip #4: Take ownership of problems rather than placing blame: A problem amongst a fighting couple is like the border between two countries: it is always an integral part of both sides. That is, a problem is never his or her fault. You own your problems together. If your spouse has a serious problem like a drinking, gambling, or cheating, it instantly becomes your problem as well. You both have to find a healthy solution, together. Own your problems as a couple and you can overcome anything.

Tip #5: Agree to take a break from your problems: When couples are trying to avoid a separation by actively working through their problems, they often find themselves falling into the rut of always and only talking about those problems when they are together. The trouble is, by always making our problems the center of our attention, we are actually giving them even more power over our relationships than they deserve. To avoid this vicious cycle, pick certain times to consciously take a break from your problems when you are with your spouse. Go miniature golfing, see a movie, or take a walk, all the while promising that you will put your problems on the back burner for a while and just have some fun.

A marriage trial separation can be heartbreaking for everyone involved. Whether your separation seems to be leading toward divorce or toward reconciliation, you owe it to yourself and your spouse to give your relationship all you have. You just might be able to bring the love back.

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Happier Marriage: Ten Tips For Creating The Marriage Of Your Dreams

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Happier Marriage: Ten Tips For Creating The Marriage Of Your Dreams

By Michelle Vasquez

Everyone wants a happier marriage yet few people know what to do to achieve it. So many times people look to their spouse to “complete” them instead of looking inside themselves to figure out how they can help their relationship thrive. Here are some ideas to get you started on the road to a happier marriage.

1. Overlook your spouse’s faults like you overlook your own. If you are honest with yourself, you will admit you have faults, just as everyone does. If you’re really honest with yourself, you will admit that you often overlook or dismiss your bad habits, while criticizing your spouse’s bad habits. Decide today to go easy on your spouse. Let go of the need to correct his faults and you may find him less critical of yours.

2. Decide what kind of day you want to have, and then create it. Yes, you can do this. A rainy day doesn’t make you have a “bad day.” You decide how to deal with things that are out of your control, like the weather, other people’s driving, your boss’s micromanaging, etc. You can choose misery or you can choose peace of mind.

It begins with what you tell yourself. For example: if it’s raining in the morning you can fret and tell yourself, “This is going to be a terrible day. I’ll get wet, people will drive like maniacs, and I’ll be late for work. This day is ruined.” Guess what? You’re right. Try this instead: “I am grateful for the rain. I’ll leave early for work and I’ll drive carefully. I can put on my favorite music and I’ll choose calm. This is a great day.” Your spouse will thank you when you decide what kind of day to have and her “bad mood” won’t bother you!

3. A kiss on the cheek at an unexpected time can create goodwill. If you have a habit of greeting your spouse with a friendly, “Where were you? Why didn’t you call? You said you were going to be here by 6:00,” take a deep breath and hold that thought. Try this instead: “I’m so glad to see you. How was your day?” then kiss him on the cheek and enjoy the rest of your evening together. Maybe your spouse will think you’ve gone crazy, but it will definitely be a change from the usual evening sparring match.

4. Always greet your spouse with a smile. Remember why you married her and let that warm feeling create your smile. Smiles are contagious; you’re likely to get one back when you practice this. When he calls you, answer the phone with a smile. You will feel differently when you smile and your spouse can hear your smile in your voice.

5. Add to this a bonus. Smiles and hugs go together like salt and pepper. We need human contact with the one we chose to marry. Hugs can melt away resentment and generate compassion. Virginia Satir, one of the key figures in the development of family therapy, declared that we need twelve hugs a day to maintain our mental health. How many hugs are you giving each other each day?

6. Always be the first to say, “I’m sorry,” even if you believe you were right (especially if you believe you are right). When you believe you are right and you’re willing to create distance between you and your spouse to hold onto your “rightness” you damage your relationship. Ask yourself if you want to win the argument or win the relationship. You can’t do both.

7. Make a daily habit of remembering what made you fall in love with him. If you only focus on your partner’s faults, you will quickly “fall out” of love. You can decide to focus on what you like and appreciate your spouse. This is not something to keep to yourself. Appreciate her and tell her. Daily. Appreciation has a wonderful benefit of coming back to you. People will do more for you when they realize you truly appreciate them and what they do.

8. Make blame an obsolete concept. It has no place in your marriage. Blame is so dangerous to the health of your marriage. Blame says you are a victim and your happiness is totally dependent on your spouse doing everything just the way you want it. Choose to take responsibility for what you can control: your own behavior. Before a blaming statement leaves your mouth, ask yourself what you can do to help your marriage.

9. Total honesty is not helpful. Discretion is better. Focusing on the good things you can say to each other is best. I think some people use the phrase “I’m just being honest” to say some pretty ugly things to each other. Sometimes people say they’re being honest, but they are really only expressing their opinion. Before you decide to say that “honest” thing to your spouse, think about how it will impact your relationship. Can you phrase it differently? Does it need to be said? Is it just your opinion? Think about it.

10. Ask yourself, “What can I do today that will bring me closer to the one I married?” Then do it. Keep it simple, using the examples above or creating your own. You have a creative mind and you can make this a daily habit. You will reap the benefits of a closer, happier marriage. Keep up these habits, building on them, and you can create the marriage of your dreams.

About the Author: Michelle E. Vasquez is a Relationship Coach and a Licensed Professional Counselor in San Antonio, TX. For more tips and tools to help you create relationships that bring you joy, visit http://www.michellevasquez.com and sign up for the free newsletter, Relationship Success, while you’re there.

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Online Marriage Counseling: A Positive Step Toward Saving Your Marriage

11 Jan 2012 at 16:42

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Online Marriage Counseling: A Positive Step Toward Saving Your Marriage

By Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D.

A marriage vow is supposed to be an inviolate thing, a binding commitment between two people to spend the rest of their lives together. This includes through better or worse, richer or poorer and in sickness or good health; we all know the drill. Every married couple repeats the vows or variations on them and, at the time, the vast majority of these people mean what they recite and fully intend to honor those vows. The unwritten assumption is that there are always ups and downs in any marriage, but on the whole, the relationship is assumed to be strong enough to survive these bumps and should in fact become stronger for them.

Yet, it’s a fact of life that nearly half of all American marriages end in divorce. In Canada, it’s over a third of all marriages. In some European countries, divorce rates actually exceed fifty percent! For a society that generally considers marriage the pinnacle of adult relationships and the foundation for a family, these aren’t statistics to be proud of.

Traditional Marriage Counseling has not been particularly successful for many people and that shortcoming is reflected in the dismal marriage failure statistics. It’s not necessarily a lack of commitment on the part of the spouses who are trying to work their way through a difficult time; in fact, traditional marriage counseling can become a multi-year exercise that requires a significant investment in time, money and emotion. People are enduring this in the hope of piecing their marriages back together. Still, that extraordinarily high divorce rate remains.

Many marriage counselors end up creating a dependency, where couples are afraid to make any move without first consulting their therapist. Spouses tend to be of different temperaments and therapy sessions can be overwhelming for one of the partners, creating or amplifying an existing emotional imbalance in the relationship. Sessions tend to focus on the problems, the negatives in the relationship, and that frequently means singling out one partner for their transgressions. There can be a great deal of emotional energy created in a traditional therapy session, but all too often it’s negative energy: resentment or anger. How can that negativity help the couple struggling to save their marriage?

If you are in a troubled marriage, instead of automatically turning to the phone book and stepping onto the therapy treadmill, perhaps you should Save Marriage Counseling as a last resort; at least traditional marriage counseling.

What is it that makes a married man or woman take the risk of engaging in an extramarital affair? While many people assume it’s simply boredom, money or outright sexual attraction, often the root cause can be traced back to the fact that everyone likes to feel special. Consciously or subconsciously, people get married in the first place in large part because they feel special when they’re with their partner. When that partner no longer makes them feel special, they begin to seek a bond with others in an attempt to recapture that “special” feeling.

There are Online Marriage Counseling services available that avoid the pitfalls of traditional marriage counseling. Instead of sitting in an office, re-opening old wounds as you are prompted to go though the litany of ways you and your spouse have hurt each other, the alternative is to listen to an expert as they walk through real-life examples and focus on the positive experiences of marriage. It’s all done in the privacy of your own home (or car, or wherever you choose to listen to the CDs), on your timetable and benefits can be realized even if only one of the spouses chooses to take part. Instead of digging through the relationship’s dirt, the emphasis is on learning how to fulfill each other’s needs so that each partner once again feels special. This is a positive approach that can give a marriage a much-needed fresh start. The approach has been proven successful and leading practitioners have been featured in the media, including appearances on Oprah, The View and The Today Show, not to mention leading publications including USA Today, The New York Times and Cosmopolitan.

In the end the choice is up to you: months or years of ongoing, intensive and emotionally-charged therapy, or a short, positive re-enforcement of why you chose to get married in the first place.

About the Author: This article was written by Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D. for LightYourFire.com, who has shown thousands of couples that you don’t need marriage counseling to bring back the feelings you had when you first fell in love. Article reproductions must include a link pointing to http://www.lightyourfire.com/

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Is There Hope to Save a Marriage? Here Lies the Secret to Turning Your Marriage Around

10 Jan 2012 at 15:34

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Is There Hope to Save a Marriage? Here Lies the Secret to Turning Your Marriage Around

By Steve Gee

Do this one magical thing and there will be plenty of hope for saving your marriage

Has your spouse just told you that your marriage is over? Are you doing what most people do when this happens? If you are then stop right now and read the rest of this article. It could be the difference between splitting up and making up.

What you must not do if you hope to save your marriage and stop your divorce

Most people have a knee-jerk reaction to their spouse telling you that you’re finished as a couple. You tell them how much you love them and can’t live without them. You tell them that you would do anything to get them back. You will change your habits, buy gifts, spend less time at the office blah blah blah… Do you think that all this pleading is going to make any difference? Well it is – it’s going to make things a lot worse and push your partner even further away from you.

You have to fight to save your marriage but you need the right weapons

Whatever you do, stop pleading with your spouse right now. It isn’t going to help and you need to learn a different way of approaching your problem.

Getting your wife back isn’t going to be easy but it can be done and if you go in armed with the right weapons and the proper training in how to use them then you will be surprised just how effective they can be. There is hope to save a marriage in most cases – it’s just a matter of doing the right things in the right way.

This is the first thing you must do to get your Ex back

The first thing that you must do to save your marriage is accept that it’s over. I know that this doesn’t sound right but you’re not going to get anywhere until you realize that it’s what your partner wants right now and you need to give it to them. Think about getting your ex back as the start of a wonderful new relationship together not the end of one that’s failing.

Have a calm and rational discussion with your partner and tell mim or her that they are so right and that you have been thinking along the same lines for a long time. If you’ve already done the pleading bit and some time has passed then write them a letter to tell them that you now accept the situation and that you think it’s the right thing to do.

I know that this is the exact opposite of what your heart is telling you to do but this technique has far greater chance of working than pleading with your spouse hoping that they will change their mind. Let’s face it, pleading almost never works so what have you got to lose?

Now there is hope to save your marriage

Once you’ve accepted the situation and you both start to think about the rest of your life the pressure of the separation melts away and you’re free to start making up. Be careful not to undo the good work you’ve done so far though. You now have to go under the radar to start getting your ex to love you again without realizing what’s happening. If you go about it the right way – there is hope to save your marriage in abundance.

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Funny Marriage Advice to Make Your Marriage Stronger

09 Jan 2012 at 22:21

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Funny Marriage Advice to Make Your Marriage Stronger

By Robbie T. James

Marriage is serious business. After all, for most people the person we marry is someone with whom we share our home, money, and love – and even our kids! And, marriage is forever – or at least that is how most people intend it to be when they get married. Most married people spend a significant amount of their personal time in close proximity to their spouses.

In order to take a lighter view on the serious business of marriage, I have collected some of my favorite funny bits of folk wisdom and advice on the subject of how to keep your marriage healthy, healthy, and strong. So, here is some funny marriage advice to make your marriage stronger:

1. Don’t date anyone you wouldn’t marry:

This one is really more of a comment on how to conduct oneself before marriage. For most people, dating is as much a way to have fun as it is to find a life mate. After all, dating often includes going out on the town, having some good food, maybe a bit of dancing – doing things that are outside of the ordinary, hum-drum of pattern daily life. But, this piece of advice implies something important about dating: it can lead to something much more serious. If you go out on date after date with someone about whom you are not necessarily crazy (but are just doing it to have a bit of fun), the strategy could backfire on you. Things might get serious before realize it, and you could end up compromising and marry the wrong person.

2. Don’t fight about money – there is never enough to go around anyway:

As most married couples will tell you, money is one of the biggest sources of conflict within a marriage. Money – and how we handle it – is so personal and no two people view it in exactly the same way. Combine that with the fact that most married couples share their money; that is, they add to and take from the same “pot” on a regular, ongoing basis. And, for most people, there just never seems to be enough money to do all of the things we want to do. The solution? Realize that there will probably always be a bone to pick between you regarding how each of you handles money – but that is no reason to fight. Just agree to disagree on the small stuff and move on.

3. If you are a woman: do not expect your husband to change after marriage:

Women, be honest with yourselves: if you are like most women, when you married your husband you had all sorts of specific expectations about ways he would become an even better or more pleasing person post-marriage. This is just a huge fantasy, so you need to let this notion go! Of course, married men do change over time. But, such change is not always necessarily for the better, and it is very unlikely that the things a woman dislikes most about her husband are going to magically go away. The best advice for women is to not expect your man to change and to try to accept him for who he is.

4. If you are a man: do not expect your wife not to change after marriage:

Calling all men: when you married that perfect little bride of yours, you formed a mental picture in your mind of what she was (or what you imagine her to be). As time passes, you may have noticed that the gap between the person your wife is today and that mental image of how she “used to” be is getting larger and larger. Fact is, most men start reminiscing about the way things were (or they way they thought things were) with their wives before they got married, lamenting the ways she has changed since then. Here is a little piece of advice: embrace the changes she has gone through and enjoy the ride!

5. Never have breakfast together:

This last one really hits home with me. Neither my wife or I are morning people. When we get up each morning, we need to give each other as wide a berth as possible, lest we risk getting our heads removed by the grumpy monster in the room. That means staying out of each other’s way for at least the first half hour in the morning. And, of course, having breakfast together immediately after getting up in the morning is completely out of the question!

Making a marriage successful requires a lot of hard work and patience. At the same time, keeping a good sense of humor about your marriage can actually be very good medicine.

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09 Jan 2012 at 19:20

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Save Marriage Advice – 4 Tips to Help You End an Unhappy Marriage

By Mak Stella

What do you do if you have an unhappy marriage?

It is common for couples these days to resolve their unhappiness by seeking a divorce. However, things do not have to end up that way. Here are 4 tips to help you end the unhappiness in a marriage without going through the divorce procedures.

1. Resolve problems together

First of all, you have to remember that there are no perfect marriages. Every couple faces problems and arguments but the key issue is how these are resolved. When you are faced with financial, health or even emotional problems, do not dwell on the issues or find faults with each other. That is not going to solve your problems. Instead, take these difficulties as challenges and solve them together. Staying positive will help to make you grow stronger both as an individual and as a couple and thus help to bond your marriage closer.

2. Rekindle the passion

A lot of married couples tend to forget why and how they fell in love with each other in the first place. These days, most couples are very busy with their careers and family so they forgot to appreciate each other’s company. Over time, they feel that they have landed themselves in an unhappy marriage and start to consider a divorce. Sadly, they feel that a breakup is the only way to end their unhappiness. There is really no need for things to get to that extent, unless you are in an abusive relationship.

You should rekindle that passion that had caused both of you to fall madly in love during the good old days. You can look through the old photographs together or even revisit the places where you used to frequent during your courtship days. Make it a point to spend time alone together each day or at least once a week. You can show your love for each other by buying or making little gifts to give to each other. You can also plan for getaway trips occasionally or have a quiet dinner at a restaurant, away from the kids. This will help to fire up that old flame you have for each other again.

3. Maintain an open communication

Maintaining an open communication is important in order to let your spouse know what you are thinking and feeling. Your wants and needs can then be made known to each other, otherwise, the danger of drifting apart is high.

4. Seek professional help

This is my last point because many couples prefer to use this only as a last resort. Usually it is because they feel awkward with a third party intruding in their private lives. Many might not be prepared to be honest with each other and with themselves, especially not in front of an outsider.

However, this marriage counselor will be a great help to you if you have tried many other methods but nothing seems to work. Being a professional, the counselor will be able to lead both of you to find out what had really gone wrong in your marriage and how you can remediate the issues without having to file for a divorce.

In fact, if things cannot be resolved on your own and you feel shy about seeing your local marriage counselor, you might want to consider consulting an online marriage counselor instead. This expert will be able to help you resolve your differences but you do not have to meet the counselor to get help. Alternatively, you can also get additional help from sources such as ebooks which would give you help on how to save your marriage or how to get your ex spouse back.

The above are just 4 tips which you could use to help you end an unhappy marriage. Regardless of which method you try, you will be able to see some results. Staying positive in your thinking and being able to understand, forgive and have patience is vital to your success at saving your marriage.

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Save Marriage by Working Through Adversity

10 Sep 2011 at 16:37

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Save Marriage by Working Through Adversity

 

We are more aware about ourselves than our parents were, yet still inevitably fall into similar problems as our parents.  Divorce rates are as high as they ever were, which contradicts the fact we have a great understanding of ourselves and any strict religious background.  It’s possible that couples are just giving up at marriage at the first sign of trouble, something generations before us wouldn’t have entertained.  Maybe it’s time we stopped solving the problem by running away from it, and, rather found solutions that will save the marriage?

Save Marriage from the usual culprits

The general reasons that are raised time and time again for divorce as the only solution are:
I don’t get on with my in-laws
He wants our children to be brought up in His Religion, Not Mine
They were unfaithful

Save Marriage: I Don’t Get On With My In-Laws

Outlaws is, with good reason, the phrase used by people who mean their in-laws.  I say with good reason because some are nice and leave their children to fend for themselves when they get married, whereas, others choose to spend their time messing around in their sons or daughters lives.  You may have to move away as a measure to save marriage relations, if they are too close to their parents.  It’s not about who#s right and wrong about things pertaining to your marriage, the main thing that matters is that you are given freedom to work it out yourselves.  Problems are only occurences that you haven’t worked out a solution to yet.  You will.

Save Marriage: He Wants Our Children To Be Brought Up In His Religion, Not Mine

If religion wasn’t an issue, you wouldn’t be reading this article, would you?  Whether you like it or not, religion will always pose it’s own challenges.  It may have seemed hip and cool, that you were from different religious groups.  Your friends considered you both really open-minded.  Until kids arrived on the scene.  Kids have a habit of, by no fault of their own, turning things upside down.  Because you were never worried about it, until he said “I want to bring our baby up to be a (insert religious group)”  Now all of a sudden, you want to argue that it would be better to bring any children up in your religion.  If your aim is to save marriage, then there are a number of things you can do. Firstly, if you are not bothered which religion you are, you could  convert to your partners religion.

Of course, you could find some of the things that are similar in your religions and then bring the children up as both faiths. Ultimately then you will allow the child to decide which faith they will adopt when they are adults. You must have seen something good in the faith that your partner is, because it is part of what made them the person that they are. Embrace it, and allow your child to pick the bits of each faith they like best.

Save Marriage: My Spouse Cheated

There are lots of ways to save marriage after a partner has cheated. Cheating is undoubtably one of the most marriage destroying things a person can do, and there is no escaping the huge betrayal that will inevitably occur after infidelity. Couples counselling can really help, and make sure your counsellor will encourage you to discuss the affair as much as possible. Because brushing it under the carpet will do no good at all and the person who has been cheated on needs to come to terms with it. If the person who did the cheating doesn’t like discussing it – well that is tough. Do you want to save marriage or not? 80% of couples who do not discuss the affair end up divorced.

If you are truly commited to saving your marriage then you will be prepared to work through the issues that dominate your marriage. You will be able to have a great deal of pride in your relationship and be able to say, yes, because of the work and effort we put in, we did save marriage.

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Save Marriage With Good Advice

08 Sep 2011 at 13:52

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If your marriage is in trouble and you want to save marriage then you will be worried and wondering which is the right way to go. Should you try a counsellor? Maybe your partner doesn’t want to. Should you rely on family and friends for some help? Is your marriage past the point of no return, and there is little point in trying to save marriage?

The fact of the matter is no marriage is perfect. You may be feeling desperate and that you need to save your marriage but your partner is unaware and thinks that everything is ok. Whatever your situation, take courage from the fact that many couples have felt like you do, and they can offer you some good advice. If you feel you need to save your marriage then consider these nuggets of advice.

Save Marriage – Don’t get stressed out

When we are stressed out and feeling crazy, when we are close to panic we are not able to make the best decisions. So if you are feeling panicky then stop. Take a deep breath. Slow down your thinking. This will help you think clearly again.  You do need to think things through carefully before you make decisions, before you take any rash actions.

Save Marriage – Don’t damage your relationship further

If you decide that your relationship is damaged, you need to make sure you do not do anything to make that damage worse. Don’t do anything to harm your marriage and your partner. This is not the time for tit-for-tat actions.  That would be like instead of mending a priceless vase, you step on it. It is going to make things even harder to repair.  Instead, try putting yourself in your partners shoes and see what things you could do to help the situation. Never make an enemy out of your partner, you are going to need them to help you save marriage. It is time to make things better between you.

Save Marriage – Listen and learn

If you spend time just listening to your partner, you will discover what they are looking for, what they need. This can help you decide what you can do to make things better. Just listening without speaking, without justifying, employing a bit of active listening where you nod your head and occasionally repeat what your partner has said to make sure you understand it. When your partner sees you really listening to them this will help them see that you are serious about your marriage and saving it.

Improve you

Assess yourself, your personality traits and any bad habits you have picked up. Can you change anything about yourself to make your marriage better? This is a great time to improve your communication skills to show your partner that you are willing to put in the time and effort to change. This will give your partner the knowledge that you are taking what they say really seriously.

Do not be hasty

Patience is a virtue. It takes a while for people to make changes, and it can take a while for your marriage to get back to full swing. You and your partner will need to get over things that have hurt you both. You will need to work hard at being a better husband or wife and make the changes that are necessary. So be patient with your spouse, and be patient with yourself. Rome was not built in a day!

Help

You may need to get help in your marriage. You might need a counsellor, for couples counselling or even individually. Particularly if there has been drink or drug problems, you will definitely need some outside help. There is no shame in it – if you need your electrics sorted you would hire an electrician. Your marriage is worth putting an expert in there and getting the help you need to make things work.

If you are prepared to put in the time and effort, make no mistake, you will be able to save marriage.

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Save Marriage With A Date Night

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If being married feels like upaid overtime, and the happy relationship it used to be feels like a film you once saw instead of real life, then you need to take some action to save marriage and get things back to the way they once were.

You cannot escape the fact that marriage requires some work and some effort. It doesn’t always need to be work, but there is some required. Fortunately part of this work includes having fun. In fact, some sources claim that having fun is one of the most important parts of making your marriage survive. Why is that the case?

Lets think about all the things we don’t like in marriage. Having a serious talk. This inevitably includes awkward silences, thinking negative thoughts, remembering things that have hurt us. You might remember times when you have put in a great deal of effort and nothing has gone right. You might remember many accusations and fights.

So that is not going to make you feel good about your marriage.

So how does that fit in with fun? You need to experience the happy feelings that you had at the beginning of the relationship, when everything was happy and wonderful; romance was truly in the air. In order to get that back you need to put the negative feelings on hold for a time, and one great way to do that is to have a date night.

Date Night – That Old Thing?

You and your spouse need to sit down and gather together a whole list of ideas for fun dates that you could both go on together.

Then, pick an idea and start planning a date. Put the date on the calender in a highly visible place. Start making sure you have babysitters for the date. Make reservations if need be. Tell your boss you will not be available for over time on that date.

Decide that you are going to set aside anything negative for that date. You might not be able to do that entirely but that is the aim for you to go out and forget all the rubbish and worry for one night and kick up your heels and have a good time together.

Now, I appreciate that there are going to be negative feelings still present in your heart, that you perhaps want to express. But this is not the time for all that. Mentally put your negative feelings in a box for one night, and spend the time being happy. You need to connect to the happy feelings you once had.

Then, when you do decide to talk about the negative stuff, you will know that you can still get back to the good stuff that you had at first. You know that it is there, and you can touch base with it. You know that the fun and the romance is still alive and burning. That way you have more reason to get through the negative stuff and get rid of it. Because you know that life is better with your partner when it is all out and got rid of.

Remember to have a date night that is effective and fun, and it will help you put the negative stuff in its correct position, and stop it swallowing up your whole life.

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Relationship Advice: Is It Covered By Insurance?

11 Aug 2011 at 11:18

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Will Insurance Cover My Relationship Advice?

Sometimes when a couple seek relationship advice, they are prevented by worrying about the cost. But you know that there is no price that you can put on a happy marriage, although looking at insurance companies questions, they are trying to do just that!  There are lots of different variables with insurance companies, and it is on these that the decision to pay out for your relationship advice rests.

What type do you need?

So, which type of marriage help do you need? Are you and your partner planning to talk with a counsellor or a therapist? Are you wanting some advice about addiction to drugs or alcohol, perhaps you will need rehab or a detox service? All this is extremely relevant to your insurance, and whether they will cover the cost of relationship advice.

Ask the right questions!

You could check the paperwork from your insurance plan if  you still have it. Otherwise you can check your insurance company for specific details on your plan. If you bought your insurance through your employer, you may be able to go to human resources department for some advice. They will be able to help you find information about marriage help. If you are worried about confidentiality, then rest assured that the staff in human resources will be trained in dealing with privacy issues. Your personal information will be kept private, rumours will not flood the office about you and your other half.

Some employers have insurance with the big insurance companies, and offer perks for their employees. Employees are offered specific classes or sessions, or perhaps group meetings with a specific provider. The advantage of this is the cost is minimal, or sometimes free. However, the disadvantage of it is that it might not be exactly what you were looking for, although of course the financial outlay is small.

If your marriage help is provided through some sort of rehabilitation or treatment sessions, usually your insurance will cover a portion of the cost. You will need to contact your insurance company, or check out the handbook for the exact details such as coverage and out of pocket expenses.

When you and your spouse visit a licensed counsellor, or psychologist or therapist the cost of the sessions are not altogether  outside the services provided by your insurance. Marriage counselling is sometimes covered, in part if not in all. It sometimes comes under the mental health heading. Many insurance companies see this as similar to a doctor visit.  You and your spouse normally will have to pay some of the cost. Much like a standard co-pay for a doctors visit, you will be required to pay a small fee.  When you next need to think about your insurance, ask your insurance company if they provide assistance for marriage help.

While sometimes you have a high deductible for this sort of relationship advice, so make sure you send in all records of payments to the insurance company to make sure that you get all the benefits you should have. You and your partner will want to be absolutely certain to get the best coverage for your marriage help as soon as you possibly can.

Ultimately relationship advice can be expensive. In some cases, your insurance policy will cover counselling, rehabilitation,  and treatment programs. But since they only pay part, you will need to have some of your own money available for vital relationship advice.

 

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It Will Take Work But You Can Save Marriage

29 Jul 2011 at 15:35

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It Will Take Work But You Can Save Marriage

If your marriage is on the rocks, then you might ask yourself ‘Can I save my marriage?’  Although divorce rates are increasing at a staggering rate, there is hope for a troubled marriage.  It requires effort though, and as it’s a partnership, it takes both partners to make it work.

 

If you are facing the possibility of divorce, an important thing to remember is why you got married to your partner.  Was it not because you found a person whom you loved, shared common interests with and wanted to share lifes joys and pains with, make a home and a family, and grow old with?  This article will help you in saving marriage, not giving into the easy way out.

Stop Divorce

All couples face difficulties and have to work through them, even that couple on your street that you are envious of because you never see them mad at each other and they seem the best of friends every second of the day!  Questions will arise before saving your marriage can begin.  Everything started out so well, what went wrong?  Whose fault was it that it has taken such a bad turn?  Is it really important who is to blame?  An important thing to consider that will help save marriage, is if you both want to work at it and realise it probably won’t be easy.  When there’s a will theres a way!

Communication

 

A marriage heading for divorce is usually one of little constructive communication between partners.  It’s likely that you are floating along in a sea of aimlessness, hoping that a magical wand will wave and everything will work out in the end.  This is a reality check.  You need to open the lines of communication and take firm hold of the reigns of your marriage.  Nurturing and working hard on it is how to save a marriage.

Good communication is a key in saving a marriage.  Each partner looks at things from their own point of view and may not really know how the other person feels, especially if there is no talking.  Misinterpretations and misconceptions may be a regularity.  This is why you need to talk and listen and try to see things from the other persons perspective. It’s vital if you want to save marriage.

Likely your marriage hasn’t turned out quite the way you intended, this often happens.  In the beginning all was rosey and you were in love, you probably didn’t consider what the future held and the many stressful things that come up in life, especially when you are sharing a life with someone.  The reason you wanted an answer to “how to save my marriage” shows that you still do love your partner, even if it’s underneath the heavy weight of problems, trials and tribulations.  All your time may be spent working, paying bills, taking your children to school and you just don’t seem to find enough hours in the day to make time for each other.  It is possible to get your marriage back to where it was, and with work you can save marriage.

As mentoned communication is key.  You need to have open conversations, taking time to tell each other why you think things have got the way they have and how it makes you feel.  Take time to properly listen to your partner, and try to understand where they are coming from, this is vitally important.  When you both take turns to share your views, this will help clear up any misunderstandings and misconceptions that have arisen.  The nest thing you need to do is you need to make a plan on how save it you marriage.  Budget your finances and make them work.  Little things go along way, schedule time to spend to together during your week, as you would have done when you were dating.  Start going out tonight, a date night often works for some couples.  Whether it’s walking on the beach, going to the movies or a theater, or just a dinner in your favourite restaurant, it doesn’t matter as long as it’s together.  Couples in a troubled marriage have found sitting together for at least family meal helps, without tv of course.

It isn’t going to fix it’s self, you need to make changes in your life and start to work on saving your marriage.  You can save marriage if you put hard work into it. Be determined to save marriage.

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Stop Your Divorce By Saving Marriage

28 Jul 2011 at 14:30

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Stop Your Divorce By Saving Marriage

If you have been married a long time, you may have thought how things are not like they used to be. You could even be considering a divorce. But divorces are emotionally and financially draining – you could stop your divorce, by saving marriage. If you have been to see a lawyer you will know that this is a confusing scary time. Are you sure that you want a divorce? If you are not sure, then believe me when I assure you that you can stop your divorce by saving marriage. You can actually make your marriage better than it has ever been.

Where To Start?

You are going to need some good qualities to save marriage. You will need to be strong, determined, and committed. Do you have a good support system? Parents, or older relatives, good friends – you will need them all. You may even need some counselling to help save marriage.

Saving Your Marriage

So many people get divorced, and they often say they are divorcing due to irreconcilable differences. If you really want to do this, to save your marriage, then those differences will be reconcilable. You could set a new standard in your peer group, by reconciling things and saving your marrriage. Too many people give up, are not willing to put the effort into marriage. Even if there is just a little love, some tiny communciation, then it is still worth fighting for. Even a tiny bit of hope is worth fighting for.

Think about what the issues really are, the ones that are causing the difficulties. Money or the lack of it, and communication are usually the worst culprits. They are the most common reasons that people want to divorce. It ends up with one feeling controlled, and the other feeling ignored. Or that team that you started out as becomes less and less of one, with the person that earns the most money being the one who controls everything.

So, if the two of you want to help save marriage, then you can start by sitting down and talking to one another. Stay calm, don’t argue, don’t accuse, just talk about rules that need to be adhered to by both of you. You will need to see a counsellor, so try and find one that comes recommended. If only one of you wants to see a counsellor then let them go. Probably the other spouse will join in when they are ready, especially if the want to save your marriage.  Think about a counsellor who will be good for both of you, because when the other spouse wants to start with the counsellor there is less to argue and fight about.

If you really cannot get to see a counsellor then consider a pastor. If you are already an active member of a religious organization then the co-ordinator can be a neutral listening ear for both of you. They will want you to come out of your marriage problems with your marriage intact.

Ultimately, it is up to you both to save your marriage, but if at least one of you is trying, then the other spouse could join in. So then both of you can concentrate on saving marriage.

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Save Marriage – Don’t Let Adultery Defeat You

27 Jul 2011 at 18:47

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Save Marriage – Don’t Let Adultery Defeat You

Most marriages end after an affair because the one who was cheated on finds it too hard to ever trust their partner again.  To save marriage after adultery will be a very long and hard process.  When you started your marital life together, you pledge to love each other and be faithful to each other until death.  An affair severs through that abruptly.

Some couples still, even after an affair has happened, love each other very much.  Affairs are usually the result of a deeper problem.  It is important in the first instance to figure out what that problem was that caused the adulterer to stray. If you want to save marriage, this step is vital!

Change the routine!

An effect of growing older, is that we may change and may start to have different tastes and desires or simply get tired of the same old routine.  This can be when affairs take place, once the the initial buzz and excitement of marriage life because the ordinary, the offending party may simply of got bored. Lack of excitement can be one reason you end up having to save marriage.

It may not be acceptable, but, as horrible as it may sound, human beings grow bored if we do the same thing over and over again.  This applies in marriage too, and could be why the adulterer felt the need to cheat in that situation.

If you are thinking that “I want to save my marriage” then the first step is forgiving your partner.  This will be very hard and will without doubt take a while for you to get to that point.  They need work hard to win back the trust that they betrayed. You will have to win back the trust if you want to save marriage.

Find the root cause!

The next step is vital.  After forgiving them, you need to find out what the root cause of the infidelity was, and fix it.  If you move on in life and do not fix it, the same thing will inevitabley happen again. That is not the way to save marriage.

When you discover the exact problem that drove them to be unfaithful, work can begin on fixing it.  Most cases affairs happen because the offending part grows tired of the routine sexual activities.  Your time together intimately may have departmentalised into just another part of the day, less romance, more something that has to be ticked off.  If this is the cause, then it would help save your marriage by sitting down and discussing ways to bring back the passion you likely had in the beginning. This is another of the steps to take to save marriage.

Change is an important factor in saving a marriage.  If you just worked on changing the areas the offender has grown tired of, it will go a long waym to preventing them from ever straying again.  SO if it was boredom with your lovelife that drove them to it, that is the part that needs the heart to hearts and constructive changes.

It could be trickier to fix, if it is unrelated to your lovelife.  However, the fundamental points still hold true.  Talk with them, listen to them, specifically find out what they felt the problem was, and why they cheated.  Saving your marriage will rely on you being able to make steps towards changing those areas in your relationship.

You need to remember that that you should always do what is best for you.  No matter the reason or cause, life after adultery can be hard and emotionally draining.  If you can’t forgive them, then you shouldn’t feel guilty or in the wrong, they betrayed you and you have the right to end it.  But, if you do feel like you can forgive and continue to love them despite the adultery, then go for it, saving marriage you invested a lot of time and effort into. The best outcome is that you save marriage.

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Can I Save My Marriage?

26 Jul 2011 at 13:28

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Save Marriage – Can I Save My Marriage?

If your marriage is having problems, then you have probably already put into the search engines “Can I save my marriage?” There will be lots of advice there to help you save marriage, probably some of it is conflicting. When you are stressed out then you are probably not in the right frame of mind to wander through pages of advice, wondering which is the best one to take to save marriage.

Good at first?

However, there are certainly some good plans regarding how to save marriage. One of the first things to work on is communication. When you were dating you talked all the
time, remember you hated it if a day passed and you hadn’t spoken to one another! Even when you were first married you probably still made some time in the day to speak to one another even if you were at work all day. Communication was pretty good. You hadn’t even thought about save marriage issues.

Communication Breakdown

It often happens that somewhere along the way communication tends to break down. This is often where trouble starts. When there is a lack of communication, there are misunderstandings and that is where you start to think that your spouse doesn’t
understand you. This is how you end up thinking What can I do to save my marriage? It is because you haven’t been communicating, and therefore neither of you understand how
the other person is feeling. This is what leads to you thinking about save marriage.

So, you must work on good communication. Good communication requires that you spend time together, and you go beyond talk of what you did that day, general chit chat. You
need to explain how you are feeling and what is really bothering you. Also, and perhaps most importantly, you need to actively listen to one another. When you do this, you will not end up wondering how do I save my marriage. Save marriage wouldn’t be an issue.

Save Marriage Tips

Active listening. Active listening means that you don’t just hear your partner and zone out at their voice. You need to watch them, their body language, pay attention to their face, and nod to show you are following along with them. Try not to say anything unless your spouse asks you a question, just give them space to talk. This is how you will begin to save marriage.

Remember that men and women listen differently. You may think that sounds crazy but it is totally true. Women like to sit and concentrate on what they are saying, they don’t talk and do other things. Whereas men do find it easier to talk while they are doing some other task. Make sure it is a fairly easy mindless task, perhaps doing some washing up or something like that. Also men like to talk side by side – whereas women
like face to face. When trying to have a conversation you could bear these things in mind, and it could lead to more effective communication. If you do these things and make sure you are not attacking the other person verbally, you will help save your
marriage.

You will need to find some time to talk to your partner. One way is to invite them out to dinner, so you can both sit down together and talk about what is going on in your marriage. It will take some work, perhaps even finding the time to both sit down and talk, but all humans have to eat so dinner is essential. If you are both determined to save your marriage and stop divorce, then you can work together to do this.

When you talk about things, you will need discuss spending time together. When you have children, perhaps you both work long hours, it is very difficult to find the time. This leads to couples losing the spark that you once had, and so you might find that you feel like roommates rather than a married couple in love. Set a time each week to go on a date – if you find it hard to afford to do that then have a picnic in the yard, or perhaps on the living room floor.

You may need to work on your sexual relationship too. You may need to work on getting it back. But if you put effort into your communication you will probably find it coming back. Both partners need to be patient, and include plenty of touching and
stroking and spending time enjoying one another rather than rushing into sexual intercourse.

So, start making time for one another, and work on your relationship, put your focus into that rather than how unhappy you feel. That way you will save marriage from divorce. Remember what you put into the search engine? Can I save marriage – yes you can!

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