Emotional Infidelity – How Did It Happen?
So you think your husband is involved in emotional infidelity. Maybe he hasn’t admitted it, but you know the signs and they are all present. Perhaps you have checked his phone, seen the texts, you are convinced in yourself that there is definitely something going on. It is hard when you think your partner is having a marital affair.
Emotional Infidelity – What Future?
You might be worried sick about the future…….you never wanted to be a single mom. You thought your marriage would last forever! You don’t know how you will cope with the bills and the children, perhaps you are worried that he will never pay maintenance for them…….and what about the house…..willyou ever find another guy…..???
The biggest question though, is why did it happen? To make any sense of what is going on, you need to know why married people get involved in emotional affairs. This will help you discover how to repair your relationship. Yes, surviving infidelity is possible. You may think that you will never be able to do that but, with some help, you can get your relationship back even better than before.
Emotional Infidelity – Why?
The basic fact of the matter is your husband was, either consciously or sub-consciously not getting what he needed from your relationship. Now I am not blaming it all on you; it was him that got involved in the emotional affair in the first place. You need to know though that getting over an affair is possible.
But it is easy for him to fall for another woman’s charms when they start. Who hasn’t succumbed to a bit of flattery? Women do know how to stroke a mans ego. This is where emotional infidelity starts. While they know they should show emotional unavailability, cheating is imminent.
Many men like to feel like a rescuer, so if a pretty woman has a problem he can solve, and then they show him that they appreciate his efforts, he will enjoy that. This is an emotional affair alert! You can see how before long she goes to him with all her little troubles. And knowing that he is going to get flattered and appreciated – without the responsibilities of children and home – then it is easy to see how men can fall into the trap. Emotional infidelity ensues.
What can you do?
Now I know you might be thinking he doesn’t do anything. But you have to get into the mentality of little children – remember how even if your children tried to help (but made more of a mess) you still praised them for trying? Yep, that is the approach you need to take for your men. Even if they just try to help, don’t criticise. Thank them. Relationships are built up this way, and it is a great way to combat emotional infidelity.
Don’t try and cope with everything. If there is a little thing you can trust them with, make sure you do. Jam jars are good – let them be the strong man and open it for you. It really boosts their ego when they can be the one that rescues you. Interpersonal relationships are improved by this sort of behaviour. Such a tiny thing will help prevent emotional affairs.
If you think back to a time when you and your husband were happy together, when you talked about everything, and you felt that you would be together forever………..well if you put the plan into action, you can get back to that time. Yes emotional infidelity can be overcome.
Obviously I can’t give you all the information you need right here in this article, it would be far too long.